Own Your WOW!™ – the Ted talk

On October 11th, 2014 Roshini delivered Own Your WOW! . a Ted talk. Listen as Roshini describes what makes icons like Emeril Lagasse, Patti Labelle, Arianna Huffington, Malala Yousafzai and even Mickey Mouse “own their wow,”  and how you can too. 

Poltergeists, panty lines and other scary things

You might think underwear is a personal subject, but when you’re inadvertently displaying it at the office, professional events or anywhere else, your lingerie becomes a lot less private – and has a lot more influence on your lasting impression.

From a fashion perspective, most professional women know the basic “dos and don’ts.” Don’t wear tight pants, or low-cut blouses, or anything that’s ill-fitting. But most of all, don’t show us your panty lines! They’re not attractive, we all know that. But there’s the real problem with panty lines.  They actually make such a bad impression they  affect your personal presence, and perhaps even your career. Here’s why:

  • Panty lines might convey that you’re not detail-oriented. If you don’t notice that the whole world can see the outline of your underwear through your pants or skirt, what does that say about how much care you put into your personal appearance?
  • Your “rear view” (for lack of a better word) is often the last thing people see. When you walk away, what is the lasting impression as people watch you go? Will they remember those articulate answers you gave during the job interview, or that you had panty lines?
  • Panty lines might mean to someone else that you don’t know how to dress for work. You think they could hinder that promotion you’re after? You bet your panty lined ass they could!

If you’re an habitual panty liner, you may be at a loss for a solution to the problem. I’ve got some quick advice for you: Read the rest of this entry »

Communicate That! 3rd Edition: Q&A with Author Roshini Rajkumar

Communicate That! by Roshini RajkumarQ: What motivated you to write Communicate That!?

A: Working with clients in my consulting business, I found common themes arise time and again. People made the same mistakes regardless of whether they were celebrities, businesspeople, athletes, leadership, etc. They weren’t paying attention to key aspects of communicating. Chiefly:

  • They didn’t realize that the intent – the motivation behind their message – was often unclear, both to their audience and to them.
  • They weren’t taking time to analyze their audience and figure out how to tailor their words accordingly.
  • They weren’t paying attention to their personal presence, which includes key factors like body language and wardrobe.

I realized that writing a book that explains my I-A-P(TM) Formula for managing these three important aspects of communication would be a great way to give a helpful tool not only to my clients but to anyone who wants to communicate better. There are lots of books out there about communicating, but none that address those three areas of concern – intent, audience analysis and powerful personal presence – as a way to master communication.

The first edition of Communicate That! came out in 2010, and over the past four years I’ve continually thought of ways to improve the advice in the book based on my analysis of the communication styles of others, the work I’ve done with clients and the changing face of communication in today’s fast-paced, highly-public digital age.

Q: Who was the audience you were hoping to address when writing Communicate That!?

A: Really, Communicate That! applies to everyone! Certainly it’s of particular use to businesspeople, both for their day-to-day communication in an office or business environment, but also for networking events, giving talks or presentations or addressing stakeholders.

It also applies to anyone in the public eye – anyone who has to step up to a podium and give a statement or remarks, regardless of industry.

But I knew that virtually anybody can benefit from advice for better communication. Read the rest of this entry »

The Science Behind Body Language and First Impressions

You’ve heard me talk about nonverbal communication – like body language – all the time. But social psychologist Amy Cuddy has gives us the science to back it up. As a TED presenter, Amy has wowed audiences with her extensive research into body language and snap decisions, conducted at Harvard Business School, where she is a professor and a researcher.

More than a scientist in a fascinating field, Amy is an inspiration and a powerful reminder that will and determination can conquer just about anything. In her early college years she sustained a severe head injury during an automobile accident. The prognosis from physicians was grim. Many believed she would never regain enough mental capacity to return to college, let alone eventually teach. However, Amy not only finished her schooling, she also became a classically trained dancer. This combination of movement and research has provided a unique perspective on the nuances of body language.

Amy is perhaps best known for her research on “power posing” or the idea that you can purposefully arrange your body stance to influence how others see you and boost your own self-image. Read the rest of this entry »

Bouncing Back from a Bleep – Joe Biden

Biden and ObamaVice President Joe Biden has put his foot in his mouth. Again.

By now we’re accustomed to his colorful language and speech, and his stand-up comedy bits. But, will America ever be accustomed to hearing words like “b_tch” fly from the mouths of our highest officials?

First, the context. Thursday night, Biden spoke at a Harvard University Institute of Politics function where he talked about such deadly-serious topics as ISIS and tensions in Ukraine. When the floor was opened up for questions, things got a little less serious. But still, hot on the heels of some of the toughest international political issues our country faces today, when the student body’s vice president introduced himself, Biden cut him off with a quip, “isn’t that a b_tch?”

The room erupted in laughter and clearly the joke was well received. Biden quickly backtracked to explain he was referring to the office of vice presidency, but that it was the best decision he’d ever made. He may not have made any enemies with the remark in the room last night, and Biden’s supporters will chalk it up to his zany sense of humor and bold personality. Read the rest of this entry »